Some think of power as the strength to do something or overcome an obstacle. Others believe that power lies in their activities. Others see power as leadership.

The wounded inner child can manifest itself in our adult life through behaviors and attitudes, such as making long faces, withdrawing during an argument, or having tantrums. In addition, the wounded inner child can generate problems in interpersonal relationships, as well as in how we relate to others and the ability to maintain a stable relationship. On the other hand, the inner child who has healed, or the people who have managed to reconnect with it, will experience how creativity and joy accompany them when they do something they like or contemplate a landscape, for example.

Part of the communication problems we experience as people reside in our internal dialogue. How we speak to each other relates to our respect, love, and trust towards ourselves.

  One of the authors who studied and worked closely with these aspects, Bert Hellinger, observed how certain significant events experienced by a member of our family clan repeat in later generations. Some of the most common examples of traumas or events that hold much pain are the premature death of a parent or a child, death in childbirth, abuse, abandonment, suicide, murder, or some event that has marked the clan from the social aspect, creating an indelible stain that has generated shame for the rest of the members (as is the case of incest or betrayal, among others). According to Hellinger's vision, unconscious loyalty can cause suffering for many people. This unconscious loyalty to our clan members can be why we make certain decisions or suffer specific traumas or limitations that, without always being replicas of what our ancestors lived, have a close relationship with those events because what those traumas seek is to be finally resolved. As a real example, I can mention a family of five sisters who, due to social customs of not having the father's surname, discontinue the family name and, therefore, the end of the clan. The reason: the great-grandfather of these five women was a traitor in his village, murdered from behind as a form of "vendetta." After the man's death, he left his wife and son in absolute poverty with a social stain of betrayal in the village. This experience led them to move to the relatives' house in another town far from where they lived. Years later, this man conceived five daughters after trying to conceive a male child, which was his deepest desire.

Every day is new; there is a lot of certainty in that. Life can bring us something new daily, but sometimes, it shows us the same thing, so we pay attention to it. Sometimes, we don't have to look very far to be able to make our day a new and wonderful one, even when nothing special has happened. I would like you to stop for a moment, close your eyes, and ask yourself:

When you experience a particular situation, you use all your senses to perceive what you are experiencing. At that moment, you will capture the image of what surrounds you, the sounds (or silence), and the smells. Your mouth may perceive a specific taste that will remind you of when you expose yourself to a similar or analogous taste. You may perceive sensations on your skin, such as cold or heat. The senses then send that information to the brain to process the data. Simply speaking, they will transform that experience into sensations. Our beliefs will shape those sensations and feelings you experience, and your biology will create a reaction in unison: body, mind, and psyche. Then, that process is installed in your unconscious. Someday later, you may expose yourself again to a situation where your senses capture the same sensations, and together with the beliefs, they will cause your biology to react, and the disease will occur. When we live an experience with great intensity that covers specific characteristics (it is difficult for people to communicate to others unexpected and dramatic events that have no apparent solution), it creates a specific temporal imbalance that allows the survival of the individual to be guaranteed and the process of “readjustment” to begin.

The first step in the therapy technique I offer with Holistic Origin is gathering all the relevant information about our family clan. This will give us a better overview when analyzing the physical symptoms caused by emotional conflicts.